* Carefully choose the words to describe body parts,
urine and bowel movements.
* Choose words that are correct in terminology and that will not embarrass or confuse your
* Select a toilet chair or use an adapter. The adapter allows them to use the regular
toilet with the aid of a step stool and smaller seat that fits over the regular toilet.
This allows less transition when trained.
* Take your child to the toilet on regular intervals. Don’t insist the child sits
there until he/she "goes" This will only frustrate them and they may resist
going back to the toilet. If they don’t go after a reasonable time, "try"
again in 20-30 minutes. But also try to avoid taking the child too often. If the child is
truly ready mentally and physically the accidents will be minimal…… but
accidents DO happen.
* Remember to never scold or punish for accidents. If there are repeated accidents you
may need to consider that maybe they aren’t ready mentally. They may also not be
ready physically to hold urine. If you have ANY doubt, its best to wait for a couple
* If the child is truly ready for training I recommend the use of training pants with
plastic pants from the start. Pull ups in my opinion are too much like diapers and they
may not feel their accident, however at night they are appropriate. It is completely a personal
* Most children will have achieved bowel and urine control by age 3-4 years. Any
significant changes in their bathroom habits or continued accidents may warrant a call to
the pediatrician to rule out other problems or for advice.
* Most of all, if you and the child are ready mentally and physically for the task,
training will happen quickly!! Patience, consistency and a sense of humor are the keys.
Someone once told me when my daughter was training, "I’ve never
met a child in kindergarten who was still wearing diapers"